LOVE AND MARRAIGE OR MONEY ?

Money talks. Unfortunately, not enough people are willing to listen when it comes to matters of the heart. Statistics show that money is one of the leading causes of conflict and divorce. Even though the Islamic traditions don’t me...ntion much of these issues, we will outline some practical ways of avoiding monetary disputes in the household below:

Proceed with Caution (Signs of danger ahead): These situations should serve as a warning for you to try and fix the situation before it worsens:
*Your discussions about money usually turn into yelling matches and no sensible decisions are reached.
You and your wife compete with each other to see who brings home the biggest salary. There is a reason, the Quran has given the charge of the house-hold to the husband, and this would definitely result in some problems.
You view spending money on non-basic items as wasteful but your partner doesn’t.
No matter how carefully you two manage the money, things don’t seem to be getting better.
Below are a few ways that you can use to avoid money problems:
Do Not Keep Financial Secrets. Just like you don’t want him keeping any secrets from you, give him the courtesy to not keep financial secrets from him.
Discuss Money Before You Get Married. Use your pre- and during-engagement conversations (supervised of course) to discuss financial matters so that you can be on the same page when the marriage happens.
*Never Use Money As A Weapon. This is especially true for the husbands, don’t make money a weapon to threaten your wife with or to make her count the blessings that you have bestowed upon her. This will only instill hostility and cannot possibly be good for your marriage.
In the end we should remember that wealth, while one of the greatest blessings that mankind has been given, is at the same time one of the greatest trials and temptations. Allah states in the Quran: “Your wealth and your children are only a trial (fitnah). And Allah – With Him is a great reward (Paradise).” [Surah al-Taghabun, 15] and also: “And know that your possessions and your children are but a trial (fitnah) and that surely with Allah is a mighty reward.” [Surah al-Anfal, 28]
Just try not to fail this test in this life and hereafter. Don’t lose your marriage to it, and don’t ruin your akhirah because of it.